I believe to be human is to be vulnerable.

We are works in progress who must move forward lest we stagnate or backslide. I believe like attracts like, self-awareness is key to manifesting your destiny, and authentic intimacy is the surest path to emotional healing. 

Self-exposure is courageous, creativity Godlike, and sensuality sacred and sublime. Combining these forces enables life-altering connections and it is my mission to foster those bonds...to use my strengths and talents to serve my clients, inspiring confidence, clarity, and authentic intimacy in their lives.

We learn the most about ourselves through intimate connection.

Whether we're connecting or misfiring, sparking or bombing, every encounter illuminates who we are and who we are not. Integrating that information is how we become our best selves, thereby attracting our best, most compatible, partners.

Dating and intimacy are complicated, for some more than others. My goal isn't to find you your life mate or coach you through a relationship. It's to help you become the best partner you can be, for your own benefit and pleasure as much as theirs. Since I believe the way to ensure great dates and genuine intimacy is to build a foundation of great dates and genuine intimacy, I coach through advisory and experiential means.

Experience is our best teacher.

No one hits the scene with a PhD in hand, yet most people expect to master this stuff going on instinct, longing, and drive. That's like skipping law school before sitting for the bar exam!

Clients tend to be frustrated by the time they find me. They feel awkward, self-conscious, disheartened, and angry, and I get it because I've been there too. I’ve made (and learned from) every mistake there is, and went from fearful and flailing to excited and engaged (with life and three fabulous fiancés). 

When lost in the jungle you need someone who’s been there leading you out. An experienced leader and transitional partner in your journey to successful dating and intimacy. 

Client Testimonial
"I haven't been this happy for 9 years, KC, and I really believe if not for you it would have never happened. You gave me such a confidence boost and taught me that my heart could thaw one day if the right situation came along. I really believe you were [my new partner's] forerunner for me, and I am so grateful to you for that." ~BP (long-time widower in a new relationship after three months' coaching)


Hi, I’m Kristin Casey (known by friends and clients as KC),
Certified Intimacy Coach, based in Austin, Texas

I've spent my life fascinated by, and working within, the arena of physical and emotional intimacy. In 2011 I was certified as a Holistic Lifestyle Coach, and then an Intuitive Intimacy Coach in 2016. I'm a ten year yogini, student of Tantric Yoga, and clean & sober addict with two decades (and counting) in recovery. I'm also a published writer and author, quoted in magazines as diverse as Mother Jones, Forbes, and Men’s Health, and an IPSA-trained Surrogate Partner Intern available for Surrogate Partner Therapy.

Does that make me a sexpert? Well, wisdom is born of experience and of that I have plenty. At the risk of sounding like a serial dater, I've partnered with men from every walk of life:  CEOs, rock stars, oil tycoons, artists, activists, capitalists, anarchists, doctors, lawyers, bankers, landscapers (well, just the one landscaper, but he was hot enough for ten men), cowboys, bad guys, good men, bad boys, and more than my share of sexy, sweaty musicians (and may I say, God bless the Live Music Capitol of the World, Austin, Texas wink). 

I've also had two long-term, deeply loving relationships, three fiancés, eight proposals, and countless adventures on my path. In my 20s I was engaged to a world-famous musician, and spent my 40s as a luxury companion. I've had every kind of connection worth having (and some that were borderline at best), passionate, loving, playful, intense, abiding, fleeting, enriching. Male, female, conventional and non-, sensual, primal, clumsy, skilled, and all across the board.

Woven through personal experience are 20+ professional years in the field of erotic arts. My 30s were spent in sales and Real Estate, and 40s as a professional companion. That's right, I dated for a living—a fulfilling and lucrative career providing insights on power, seduction, class, culture, and a universal truth transcending gender, age, race, and income. 

We all have fear, self-doubt, loneliness, and no small amount of denial. We are hurting, hurtful, and desperate to avoid feeling vulnerable. Hesitant to state our needs, we rush to build walls or lose ourselves in our partners. We stumble, fumble, occasionally score, and could sure stand to improve on that record. 

While I'm a firm believer in talk therapy, what I offer is experiential healing. It's helpful to be aware of your issues, yet self-knowledge is rarely enough. Together we'll move past the intellectual and theoretical, to a place of authentic engagement from your inherent intuitive core. 

My typical client is male, aged 30-70, married or single, often recently divorced, widowed, or retired. I see many former workaholics, painfully shy and socially awkward men (severe introverts, Aspies, etc.), late-life virgins and semi-recluses, as well as generally well-adjusted men experiencing occasional (or pervasive) feelings of mild to moderate disconnection. I do not see women or couples.


For a free 30min consult submit an Intro Form 
Basic inquiries [email protected] (or [email protected])

Deposits required
Times listed = suggested session length 
Available Mon-Sat, noon-5p (& some Sundays)

Online Sessions ($200/hr) 
Style &/or Image Consult: 4 hours
Dating Profile Assistance: 3 hours

In Person Assistance ($250/hr)
Mock Date: 4 hours
Lay the Course: 6 hours
Workshop Partner: (please inquire)

Private Sessions ($300/hr*)
Progressive Intimacy Coaching: 3-5 hours
     Packages: *discounted rates
     Intensives: *discounted rates
Sex Ed (add-on): 2 hours (no discounts)

Surrogate Partner Therapy ($200/hr)
Every 1-2 weeks: 2 hours (for 3-12 months)
Intensive: 12 days (reduced rates; please inquire)


Online Coaching

Style/Image Consulting (add-on only)

I’ll review your wardrobe & home decor, then advise you in discarding dated items and selecting new key pieces (or if needed, an entire overhaul). Afterward, I can arrange a professional photo shoot to complete your online dating profile.

Dating Profile Help (client follow-ups only)

Dating coaching via FaceTime is solely for past intimacy coaching clients, needing real time mentoring in the real world dating scene. 

I'll revise or polish your online profile and fine-tune your communication strategies (compose a cold approach, flirtatious reply, or kindly worded rejection), ensuring you don't come across overbearing or wishy-washy, are neither underestimated nor overlooked. With my help you'll gain clarity on vital issues of consent, chemistry, compatibility, boundaries, shared values, and the following:


  • Who are you? What are your best qualities and how can we get them across? 
  • What are you looking for? What are your preferences, deal-breakers, and must-haves?


  • What turns you on? What image, vibe, or "type" catches your interest and why?
  • Where have you been fooled or unpleasantly surprised? What clues & cues do you miss?


  • How to be mysterious & playful versus coy & cagey? How to be assertive versus pushy or needy? 
  • How to elicit and reveal? Empathize and connect? Intuit and read between lines?

In Person 

Mock Dates 

The ideal way to launch your transformation is with a real-time assessment of dating strengths and weaknesses. I recommend 1-3 lunches or dinners, after which I'll provide a thorough analysis and specific input, to help smooth out your social or romantic rough edges. 

Highly recommended for recently divorced and widowed men, or anyone held back by shyness and inexperience.

Lay the Course (Austin Tour)  

One way to reduce anxiety on dates is to arrange them around fun activities that are interactive and stimulating. This option is less "mock date" than prep course, and a great way to familiarize yourself with the local offerings. 

From Hippie Hollow to Harry Ransom we'll explore all things Austin, including its art scene, historic sites, hiking trailsswimming holes, music venues, and restaurants from funky food trailers to upscale fine dining.

Workshop Partner 

I'm a weekend workshop addict, available to partner with clients for local or travel destination workshops. Sharing chi energy with an open heart is a beautiful and blessed thing. That said, it can be hard to do when you have no one to merge your energy with

In Private 

Progressive Intimacy Coaching

Whether emotional, physical, or sexual, intimacy can make life worth living or feel absolutely terrifying (sometimes simultaneously). My exercises address longstanding or recently acquired performance anxiety, pleasure avoidance, and sexual dysfunction. Through focusing on sensation, communication, attunement, mindfulness, and embodiment, you'll discard antiquated constructs, form new neural pathways, get out of your head and into your body, and increase your capacity for pleasurable connection.

Pacing is tailored to the individual. Do the entire series or cull the list of 10-20 (core + supplemental) exercises to your needs. I strongly recommend a commitment of at least 3 sessions (or a 1-2 day intensive).

Sex Education (add-on only)

It's easy to talk about getting "out of your head and into your body," but not easy to do without basic skills and knowledge. Technique and anatomy lessons will keep you from lagging behind in this vital area. Once you're engaging from a space of self-assurance and confidence, you'll more easily form intimate bonds that further assurance and confidence. (Please note, Sex Ed sessions are available upon completion of a progressive intimacy series, not as single, stand-alone sessions.)

Surrogate Partner Therapy (SPT)

Exceptionally challenging issues may require a slower pace and Supervising Therapist oversight. Rooted in the work of Masters and Johnson, Surrogate Partner Therapy is an adjunct modality of sex therapy designed to facilitate greater confidence, self-awareness, and capacity for intimacy. SPT focuses on social skills, communication, body image, sensual touch, and sexual issues (ED, premature ejaculation, inhibited ejaculation, unreliable erections, anxiety, trauma, later-life virginity, physical disability-related, and intersex and transgender support).

As an IPSA trained and supervised Surrogate Partner Intern, I adhere to their strict Code of Ethics. Please review my SPT site for more information.


Kristin Casey’s previous publishing credits include short stories, essays, articles, and poetry in the Foliate Oak Literary Magazine, The Nervous Breakdown, The FixMetal Scratches, From The Asylum$pread, and elsewhere. Her screenplays have placed as high as Nicholl quarterfinalist and AFF second rounder.

She's a recovered alcoholic and addict who's rigorously inventoried her every resentment and relinquished ninety percent of them. She's survived clinical depression, a suicide attempt, numerous addictions, the panhandle of Texas, and seventeen years of Catholicism. She writes about addiction, dependency, intimacy, and sexuality. Her comma policy is to throw a handful at the screen and where they land is where they stay.

She lives in Austin, Texas, doing her part to keep it weird, working as an intimacy coach and IPSA trained Surrogate Partner. She is currently writing a nonfiction series on the aforementioned themes and is repped by Peter McGuigan at Foundry Literary + Media. Her first book, addiction memoir Rock Monster: My Life with Joe Walsh, was released by Rare Bird Books in March, 2018.

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